About Us.
Welcome to INTOUCHMEN—a consciously curated community created to celebrate the male body and touch in a supportive, educational, and sensually safe space.
We welcome gay, bisexual, and openly curious male-identifying individuals 21 and up to reach out so we can explore the art of giving and receiving man-to-man bodywork together. We are always curious to expand community.
INTOUCHMEN is located in Montclair, New Jersey. We host both clothing-optional and clothing-on, sensually engaging gatherings for men. We are not a "SEX CLUB." Instead, we foster meaningful connections through transformative, consensual, hands-on-only, touch-forward, in-person events. Do you know what your hands can do?
At our gatherings, INTOUCHMEN are guided to give and receive, relax, and learn about touch and bodywork together. This is your chance to put down your phone, disconnect from the digital world, and discover something beyond scrolling.
Beyond our weekly gathering, email updates, and insightful blog, we intentionally don't focus on social media or flooding your algorithm. You won't receive constant updates or promotions on your social feeds. We believe in old-school face-to-face interaction.
OUR GATHERINGS ARE BY INVITATION ONLY.
WANT TO JOIN US IN PERSON? OR CONNECT FROM OUTSIDE NJ VIA OUR INTOUCH-BLOG?
TEXT 917 968 2112
To get started.
We invite wellness-focused, male-identifying individuals aged 21+ to join our consensual touch and bodywork community. Our group is primarily men in their late 40s to 60s, and we are eager to welcome new members.
Younger men are welcome to apply; I feel generational mentorship is so important.
Our vetting process starts here to ensure all IT-MEN align with our community's values. If you are interested, please text and introduce yourself. Share a brief, genuine introduction about who you are and why you wish to connect with our community. "When is the next group" or "Im sam" is not a proper introduction; you will be ignored. Keep it brief, but make it interesting.
SAMPLE
GATHERING
MEMBERS SOCIAL EXCHANGE
& BODYWORK TRADE
with Brian
We begin each gathering by exchanging consent to touch and be touched, and by asking two questions.
1. What kind of touch do I need/want today?
2. What kind of touch do I want to explore/give today?
We end each gathering by sharing our observations of the touch we experienced.
What Guys are Saying.
Alex 25, CA
"I had never seen anything like INTOUCHMEN before. When I reached out to them, Brian explained that the group mostly consisted of men in their late 30s and older. I'm 25, so I was a bit nervous. But wow, I am so happy I took the leap. What I discovered was not only body awareness and confidence but also a community of mentors and friends."
Jim 52, NY
"WOW, WOW, WOW! All I can say is that I've finally found a group of caring and kind men who are genuinely interested in helping each other discover the power of touch. Brian made our workshop enjoyable, fun, and incredibly educational. The N.J. space is beautiful, filled with art, and super convenient to reach; I loved that they have parking available."
Bill 46, MI
"I was nervous about attending since I am a working professional in the area. When I learned that the first rule of touch club is that no one talks about touch club, I felt a bit more at ease. It's like a yoga studio where all the ladies have been replaced by eager-to-learn men who want to connect. I had a blast, felt at home, and realized that I love being naked with like-minded men."
NOT IN OUR AREA, BUT WISH TO STAY INTOUCH?
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We will keep you posted on our outreach.
We do not share your info with anyone.
Our Spaces.
WORKSHOPS AND TRADE NIGHTS
The Montclair, NJ Studio
Our intimate, art-filled studio is located in Montclair, NJ. Here, we regularly come together to learn about, explore, and connect with our bodies in a safe and welcoming environment.
COUPLES TUTORIAL WEEKEND
Or a wonderful place to escape and practice touch.
The Catskills, NY
Hillcrest Cottage
A charming 2-bedroom retreat cottage, hosted by the traveling present, nestled in the Catskills. This cozy space blends rustic charm with modern comforts. Enjoy a private hot tub with sweeping views. Spend the weekend with me as I teach you and your partner the art of couples bodywork, or surprise a special friend with a private weekend away to explore your hands-on skills.
