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At Intouchmen, touch is our language. We connect through touch and presence, creating a space where physical contact fosters trust, healing, and connection. Yet, to keep this environment safe and respectful for everyone, clear boundaries and rules guide our interactions. As a moderator, I want to revisit these important guidelines and explain why they matter, especially when you join us at events, workshops, or weekends. Touch at Intouchmen is intentional and conscious. We fo

Many men reach out to me asking, "Who is in the INTOUCHMEN group?" Since we do not share members' details publicly, I want to clarify who we are and what kind of men we are looking for. First thing to know, we are a carefully curated group. Some people are a fit, others are not. This has a lot to do with timing. We are seeking different men at different times. We try to be as inclusive as possible, yet our space is small, and our dynamic depends so much on communal energy and

Here are some things I learned -once again- this week during massage sessions. First and foremost: always ask for the type of massage you want. Communication is absolutely key—I know I say this all the time, but it makes a huge difference. This week, I had a new client who, because he couldn't communicate this basic thing, turned what could have been a nice massage into an uncomfortable situation. I clearly explained the services I offer and those I do not. He agreed, but sti

In ancient Rome, aristocratic boys were gifted bullae—amulet lockets—from their fathers to wear around their necks. Tucked inside each locket was a fascinum, a phallic charm thought to ward off evil and unwanted attention. The Oxford Dictionary of Etymology defines a fascinum as any magical spell or charm, but David M. Friedman, in his book A Mind of Its Own: A Cultural History of the Penis, brings this idea into the present with a clever observation: "Today, fifteen hundred

Now that I have returned to Swedish relaxation massage in my wellness space, I am experiencing firsthand its incredible benefits. For those unfamiliar, Swedish relaxation massage is a gentle, therapeutic style focused on calming the nervous system and promoting deep relaxation. Relaxation through one-way touch offers a unique opportunity to let go, allowing your mind to drift out of your thoughts and deeply into your body—into sensation and true relaxation. Yesterday, a longt

Last night, I had one of those unforgettable experiences that remind me why I love being part of the Intouchmen community. For those who don’t know, Intouchmen is a group where men come together to share the healing power of massage, relaxation, and conscious touch. Every gathering deepens my appreciation for connection and the beauty of our bodies. We had a wonderful massage trade last night at Intouchmen, and I slept like a baby. I can’t even tell you how fantastic each and

What happens when you take one sensation away? Suddenly, every other sense comes alive, sharper and more intense. This principle fascinates me—not just in bodywork, but also in the most intimate, sensual moments. Our bodies always seek balance, but when we disrupt the usual rhythm, something magical happens. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking about how interconnected our sensations really are. As I move between studying the ethics of touch, the history of sex, and reflecting

Today, I want to talk about taking a non-sensual approach to working on your partner’s erogenous zones. Some of the most amazing massage experiences I have had involve a partner massaging the super sensitive areas of my body in a way that focuses on releasing stress energy, not sexual energy. Yes, there is a way to massage the cock, balls, and ass in this way. What do I mean by “non-sensual”? In this context, it means focusing on relaxation, energy movement, and tension relea

Self-pleasure is often overlooked or misunderstood in conversations about men's wellness. Many men engage in this act daily, yet few recognize its potential as a meaningful practice for overall health and spiritual growth. How can we transform this daily ritual into an experience that nurtures body, mind, and spirit? Understanding Practice as a Path to Growth In many disciplines—sports, music, art, yoga, massage therapy—practice is essential. It is a continuous journey of imp

Avoidance is a silent challenge many middle-aged men face. It creeps into daily life, making it easier to skip workouts, ignore unhealthy habits, and avoid meaningful connections. This pattern can quietly shape the quality of life as years pass. The truth is, avoiding these key areas only makes life harder and less fulfilling. Taking control, staying active, and nurturing relationships are essential steps to living well as we age. Why Avoidance Becomes a Trap Many men find th

Every day, I notice more and more how the world encourages me to see every part of myself as something to fix, heal, or overcome. The constant drive to improve and optimize can feel relentless. Lately, as I’ve explored the men’s work community, I keep seeing the same pattern: algorithms pushing messages about what’s wrong with us, what needs healing, and how we should always be working to become better versions of ourselves. I can’t help but wonder—has this endless chase for

Masturbation is a natural and healthy part of human sexuality. It offers various physical and emotional benefits, whether practiced alone, with a partner, or in a group setting. Understanding the distinctions and advantages of solo, partnered, and group masturbation can help individuals and couples explore their sexuality in ways that feel comfortable and fulfilling. A cozy bedroom setting ideal for personal intimacy Benefits of Solo Masturbation Solo masturbation is the most

Sex and masturbation are natural human experiences that engage complex neurological processes. Understanding what happens in the brain during these activities can provide valuable insights into how pleasure is generated and how we might enhance it. Brain model showing neural pathways involved in sexual pleasure How the Brain Processes Sexual Stimulation When a person engages in sex or masturbation, the brain activates multiple regions that work together to create the experien

Masturbation is often dismissed as a simple, even trivial act, yet it holds a profound potential for healing and self-discovery. May is recognized as Masturbation Month, a time to reflect on this natural practice beyond the usual jokes and slang terms like "beat off," "wack off," or "jerk off." These phrases reveal how society often reduces a deeply human experience to crude expressions, shaping how we view self-pleasure. A calm meditation space symbolizing inner healing and

One of the most incredible lessons I have learned from years of practicing bodywork with men is the power of simply stopping and allowing ourselves to just be. To be fully present in our bodies, in the company of another man, and in deep contemplation with touch, energy, and focus. In those moments, the outside world fades away, and our internal healing mechanisms activate, working quietly but powerfully. This kind of healing is not passive or one-sided. It is a shared experi

Every step we take toward understanding ourselves better brings us closer to genuine connection. In our men's group, this journey is not just about gathering; it’s about growing together, exploring new dimensions of wellness, and embracing the full spectrum of what it means to be a man today. I’m excited to share how my ongoing studies and discoveries will deepen our bond and open fresh pathways for us to connect on all levels—mind, body, and spirit. Embracing the Adventure o

When you think of InTouch-Swedish massage, you might picture smooth, flowing strokes that relax muscles and ease tension. But what if you could take that experience deeper, connecting the entire body through an ancient energy pathway? Welcome to the world of the Bladder Meridian, a fascinating channel in Eastern medicine that links with other meridians and offers a unique way to enhance your massage practice. InTouchMen is having a workshop this Sunday on the Bladder Meridian

When men come together in a space where nudity is welcomed and touch is shared, something unexpected often happens. An opportunity presents itself. The usual walls built around body image, self-judgment, and emotional distance start to soften. In these moments, one has the chance to begin to see oneself and each other in a new light—diverse, imperfect, and deeply human. This kind of experience can open doors to self-acceptance and connection that many men have never explored

In the rush of daily life, it’s easy to lose touch with our own bodies. We push through stress, ignore subtle signals, and forget that our nervous system needs care just like any other part of us. I’ve come to realize how crucial it is to slow down and listen deeply to what our bodies are telling us. This isn’t just about relaxation; it’s about reconnecting with the energy that flows through us, especially as men, and finding balance through mindful touch and presence. The Qu

What’s truly amazing about self-touch and exploring the feelings of pleasure in your own body is that there are absolutely no rules when it’s just you. There are no molds to fit into, no agendas to meet—it’s simply you enjoying yourself. This is your time to play, to discover all that your body has to offer. I’ve always seen masturbation as play, as discovery, and as a way to better understand what my body likes. Moderation is still important, and of course, consent is always